My journey with clothes looked something like this:
- Retire my clothes for maternity clothes.
- Give birth.
- Keep wearing maternity clothes because I don’t fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes yet.
- Wonder when I’ll fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes.
- Start wearing pajamas all the time because they fit and they are comfortable.
- Cry for no reason (realize it’s because I feel horrible about myself).
- Realize I have nothing to wear.
- Keep eating a ton of food because I’m nursing and so tired.
Sound familiar? Here’s what I finally realized:
My body is different now. I may lose the pregnancy weight. I may not. Regardless, my body is different. My hips are wider; my feet bigger. I have some fat ripples instead of being perfectly toned everywhere. I have a belly now. Not all of my pre-pregnancy clothes are going to flatter me the way that they used to, even if I do “fit” into them once again.
So, here’s what I did about it:
Many women focus on losing weight. That’s great. I chose to focus not only on being healthy, but on feeling good about my body NOW. This meant learning my new body, accepting my new body, and dressing my new body a little differently. I had to learn what looked good on me all over again.
Here are some tips I learned along the way that I think will apply to most women postpartum:
Find some good jeans that you are comfortable in
“Mom jeans” exist for a reason; and, as it turns out, they are really comfortable and can look great. Yes, they have a higher waist line, which I very much appreciate now! Since I am on the floor with my child all day long, I really don’t want my jeans so low that my underwear are showing, my belly is showing, and my belly is folding over my jeans. The higher waist jeans are lovely for feeling comfortable and secure! They are also very flattering (unlike the ones of the 80’s), and they hide that belly a tiny bit. Most importantly, they hide my underwear!
Find fitted shirts, but not tight shirts
I had to go up a size simply because my shoulders are wider now. I also have a little belly, as most of us will. So having a fitted shirt through the bust and shoulders is perfect. Look for shirts that flow away from the body just slightly. You don’t want to be drowning in your clothes, but you want a little freedom in them now.
Find stylish clothes
Just because you are a mom now, and perhaps a stay at home mom, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t wear something you like. Hold out for things you like, not just those that fit. The clothes you buy should put a smile on your face.
Find clothes that fit
Don’t get caught up in the fact that you might be a larger size now. Don’t let that deter you from shopping. It is totally ok to go up a size. The size is not what matters. How you look in it and how you feel is most important.
For me, once I accepted that my body was different, it was a whole new ball game. I felt ok to go and get myself a few things. I cleaned out my closet and hung onto only the items I absolutely loved. Again, I may fit into them again one day, and I may not. In the meantime, however, I needed to find clothes for right now. I needed to feel like myself again. Take the plunge and set aside some time and money for you. You will appreciate it in the long run!
*This post is sponsored by vitaMedMD, a division of TherapeuticsMD. I received compensation in exchange for writing this article. Although this post is sponsored, all opinions are my own and I do not have any relationship to the companies or brands I suggest.